Am I Talking Too Much?

There is a time and a place for everything. So where is the place for all of the questions you have for the people, specifically men, you meet? You certainly do not want to barrage prospective suitors with queries about religion, politics, and family values. How are you supposed to know all of the important things about a man before you start to date him? This is where I will begin to sound like a old-fashioned crone. Be his friend first. Keep the sticky, complicated and difficult things for after you know him better. Friendship is the best way to get to know someone on a basic level. You can find out if you are both passionate about skiing without having to worry if you and he will have a lifetime of trips to Colorado ahead of you.

The best place for this kind of interaction is with a group of people. Go see a movie with some friends and talk about it afterwards. The easiest way to find out what people think is to ask them. Present your own thoughts back, and next thing you know, you have a conversation going. There is no need to be forward or pushy about your opinions, just honest and forthcoming

Just because you have feelings for someone does not mean you have to jump right into dating. It is much easier to go from being a friend to a girlfriend than the other way around. You may run the risk of ruining a perfectly good friendship by immediately assuming there is something between the two of you. Waiting a few weeks, or even better, months, you find out if there is ever going to be anything real with this guy.

You must understand that you are not running a race. Even if you are the last one of your friends to get married, does that matter as long as you know you have found the right person? Of course, I would surmise that jumping at every opportunity will actually slow you down. Take time to smell the roses. I know that sounds trite, but hurrying through life will only leave you tired. You met this guy, and you like him, so talk to him, get to know him, but do not leap into the dating mentality. If he is also interested in you, he will be patient. If he does ask you to dinner or some other date like activity, by all means accept, but be sure to tell him you would like to wait and see for a little bit longer. The best things in life are always worth the wait, so slow down a little bit and see what is coming around the bend.

Emma